what if both answers are true?
if the guy in question could be a combination of seemly opposite traits, might not the same be true in other circumstances? a job loss be a stroke of good luck? can you still be in love yet cheat?
we first need to feel safe.
1. set boundaries that correspond to the worst of time.
when times are good, establish limits that prepare you to deal with the relationship when times are bad.
this is how you keep from being blindsided.
2. focus your appreciation on the best of times.
(book-What Happy People Know)
acknowledge the faults, dont focus on them, dont deny them, baste in his best legacy.
3. remain calm when you explore your options.
dont get caught up in the thought of past bad behavior predicts future consistency, but also dont assume his sweet charming behavior will last forever. when you explore the scope, youll learn if you can accept this particular mixed IV drip.
"existing in continuous creative response to whatever was present~ in their love lives, careers, and their definition of self."
Martha Beck writings......
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