How removing the element of life from a noun can drastically alter a relationship.
“If two people are friends, there is an expectancy that exists within the relationship. When we see each other or are apart, there is an ‘expectancy’ of being together, of laughing and talking. That expectancy has no concrete definition; it is alive and dynamic and everything that emerges from our being together is a unique gift shared by no one else. But what happens if I change that ‘expectancy’ to an ‘expectation’ –spoken or unspoken? Suddenly, law has entered into our relationship. You are now expected to perform in a way that meets my expectations. Our living friendship rapidly deteriorates into a dead thing with rules and requirements. It is not longer about you and me, but about what friends are suppose to do or the responsibilities for a good friend.”
“If two people are friends, there is an expectancy that exists within the relationship. When we see each other or are apart, there is an ‘expectancy’ of being together, of laughing and talking. That expectancy has no concrete definition; it is alive and dynamic and everything that emerges from our being together is a unique gift shared by no one else. But what happens if I change that ‘expectancy’ to an ‘expectation’ –spoken or unspoken? Suddenly, law has entered into our relationship. You are now expected to perform in a way that meets my expectations. Our living friendship rapidly deteriorates into a dead thing with rules and requirements. It is not longer about you and me, but about what friends are suppose to do or the responsibilities for a good friend.”
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